Mentorship, Motherhood, and God’s Beautiful Design
Mama, can we talk heart to heart for a minute?
If you’ve ever found yourself longing for a mentor—someone a little further down the road who could speak wisdom into your life—you’re not alone. That desire is not only normal… It’s biblical.
I’ve had the privilege of having an older woman in my life who has been my mentor for the past 30 years. Our relationship has been a true gift from God, has taught me so much, and has brought me so much joy. It helped me on my journey of motherhood, but it has also brought me to where I am today as a mentor mentoring younger women.
You see, I know what it did for me. So when I was asked to be a mentor mom at MOPS (now called MomCo), after almost saying no, I felt God nudging me to say yes. Here I am many years later with ten years of mentoring under my belt.
God did more with that ministry than I could have ever imagined possible. After ten years of teaching, mentoring, and building beautiful relationships with young mamas, many of which I still have to this day, I have recently launched a course called Intentional Motherhood & Home. This course is a 5-module experience designed to help you bring intention into your daily rhythms, cultivate a Christ-centered home, and build lasting, heart-connected relationships with your children.
I want to be real with you for a minute. I have been building this course for the past two years. Along the way, I’ve had doubts and fears, but have felt God nudging me to keep pressing on. The day I hit publish on my course, I was overwhelmed with gratitude.
Some of those doubts revolved around this thinking: Who would want to hear from a 60-year-old woman about motherhood? BUT GOD. BUT GOD. BUT GOD. He reminded me of Titus 2 when I heard myself sharing those thoughts out loud with a close friend.
“Older women are to train younger women…” This is God’s design—clear and intentional. When I truly grasped this, it was like a lightbulb turned on. From that moment on, I stopped second-guessing myself or saying I wasn’t qualified. This is exactly how God planned it, and I want to walk confidently in that calling.
Why Titus 2 Still Matters Today:
In Titus 2:3–5, the Apostle Paul paints a picture of how the church should function—with generations of women walking together, guiding one another in love and truth.
Let’s look at what this passage actually says and how it speaks directly to you and me.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
— Titus 2:3–5 (ESV)
What Is Titus 2 Really About?
Titus 2 isn’t just a list of dos and don’ts. It’s a call to discipleship through relationship. It’s God’s beautiful design for women living and learning in community—passing on truth, wisdom, and encouragement from one season to the next.
Let’s break it down:
1. Older Women Are Called to Teach What Is Good
This begins with a life that reflects a love for God. These women aren’t perfect (this was a hurdle I needed to get over), but they are faithful—YES (that is all God asks). They’ve walked through seasons of motherhood, marriage, heartbreak, and growth—and their role is to pour that wisdom into younger women.
That’s mentorship. That’s Titus 2.
If you’re an older woman (and yes, even if you’re just one season ahead of someone else), you have something to offer. Your story. Your mistakes. Your prayers. Your faithfulness. It matters.
I needed to be reminded of this!
2. Younger Women Are Called to Listen and Learn
Younger women (which might be you right now!) are encouraged to open their hearts to guidance. Not because older women are better—but because they’ve been there. They know what it’s like to have toddlers who are disobedient, teens slamming bedroom doors, and seasons where marriage feels hard.
Being mentored takes humility. I’ll be honest—there were moments I didn’t want to hear what my mentor had to say. But she always spoke truth in love, and when I chose to keep my heart open and receive her wisdom, it helped me grow. I’m a better woman today because of that relationship.
Paul encourages younger women to:
- Love their husbands and children
- Practice self-control and purity
- Manage their home with intention
- Be kind
- Live in partnership with their husbands
These aren’t outdated rules—they’re life-giving truths that help us build strong families and homes that reflect God’s goodness.
What Does “Be Subject to Their Husbands” Mean?
Let’s talk about the part that often makes us pause: “be submissive (or subject) to their husbands.”
Can I encourage you with this? Biblical submission is not about powerlessness—it’s about partnership.
- It’s not about being silent.
- It’s not about saying “yes” to everything without thought or voice.
- And it’s certainly not about being treated as less than.
Biblical submission is about order and trust, rooted in love. It means respecting your husband’s role as a spiritual leader in the home, while also standing confidently in your own God-given worth and wisdom.
Ephesians 5:21 reminds us to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Marriage, when lived out biblically, is not a power struggle—it’s mutual love and sacrifice.
A husband is called to love his wife the way Christ loved the church—with tenderness, sacrifice, and steady devotion. Don’t miss that!! This is key when it comes to understanding Titus 2. When that kind of love is present, submission isn’t something forced or demanded—it becomes a willing, beautiful response to godly leadership and mutual respect.
Why It Matters in Motherhood
Paul ends this passage with a powerful purpose: “so that no one will malign the word of God.”
When we live out these truths—when we love our families well, are kind, and seek Biblical wisdom in our homes—we are showing what the true meaning of the gospel is.
Your home is where you disciple your children.
It’s where you model grace.
It’s where your children learn what faith looks like in real life. It’s where you “walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called,” as we see in Ephesians 4:1.
When moms live intentionally, rooted in biblical truth, the ripple effect is powerful and eternal.
So, Where Do We Start?
- If you’re a younger mom, seek out an older woman you admire. Ask questions. Invite her to coffee. Listen to her stories. You don’t have to figure this out alone.
- If you’re a more seasoned mom, don’t underestimate your influence. Your experience matters. The younger women in your life need your wisdom more than you realize.
- And wherever you are, let God’s Word shape your heart, your home, and your motherhood.
Final Thoughts
Titus 2 isn’t just a suggestion—it’s a gift. It’s God’s invitation for us to walk this journey together, generation by generation. Someone did it for me, and I am passing it on to others. It is God’s design!
You weren’t meant to mother in isolation. Social media makes isolation so much easier today. We think we can experience socialization by being online. This is not the same and, in fact, hurts our society.
You were made for community.
For relationship.
For connection.
For growth.
Let’s embrace our roles—whatever season we’re in—with purpose, humility, and joy.
Because intentional motherhood isn’t about doing it all—it’s about doing what matters most with God’s help and wisdom from those who’ve gone before us.
If you are feeling overwhelmed and in a state of chaos or feel like you are winging it in your motherhood, and you need wisdom from an older woman who has walked the motherhood journey, I’d like to offer help. My course, Intentional Motherhood & Home, is NOW available, and I feel confident it can make a difference in your life and the life of your family.
From My Heart To Yours ❤️,
Kim
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